Pillar 4: Challenging Conversations

Pillar 4 of our ‘4 Communication Pillar’ series, equips individuals with the skills necessary to navigate complex communication scenarios adeptly. This crucial part of the course focuses on avoiding linguistic pitfalls that may lead to aggressive or passive communication. It highlights the importance of using neutral, factual language and avoiding evaluative statements that can put others on the defensive. The course underscores the power of using phrases like ‘I have noticed’ to maintain a neutral observation space, fostering communication that combines warmth with gravitas. This pillar is particularly beneficial for those looking to enhance their ability to handle difficult conversations effectively, whether in personal or professional contexts.

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Pillar 4 Explained: Challenging Conversations

 

  • Focus: Navigating difficult communication scenarios effectively
  • Key Aspects:  
    • Avoiding Aggressive or Passive Language: Communicating from a place of warmth and gravitas
    • Five Perspectives: Approaching conversation with different mindsets (Observation, Feelings, Curiosity)
    • Agree and Build” Collaborate and affirmative communication strategies
  • Tools and Techniques: Avoiding forceful or judgemental language, using positive openers, and choosing the right approach to apologies and disagreements

Pillar 4 is a journey through 14 transformative tools, each carefully selected to help navigate difficult conversations in an effective manner. With our expert coaching, these tools are tailored to align perfectly with your personal and professional objectives.

Whether you choose a 5 or 10 session program, your experience will be customised to ensure maximum impact. Our approach is not one-size-fits-all; it’s a personalised pathway to empower you in achieving your specific goals.

A highlight of Pillar 4 is the creation of your personal Grace in Conflict Charter. This is more than just a plan; it’s a commitment to yourself. In this charter, you’ll articulate a set of statements of how you intend to support yourself in navigating communication challenges to a peaceful and mutually respectful outcome.

HERE’S WHAT’S INSIDE


Values

Discusses the role of understanding values in challenging conversations to build empathy and a deeper connection.


Five Perspectives

Introduces a tool that highlights how language is influenced by our perspective of a situation, aiming to avoid aggressive or passive language.


Navigating Language – I Observe

Focuses on using objective, factual language to maintain neutrality in communication.


Navigating Language – I Feel

Emphasises the importance of owning one’s feelings in communication to avoid judgement and foster empathy.


Navigating Language – I’m Curious

Encourages curiosity about the other person’s feeling or thoughts, promoting empathy and understanding.


COAST Tool

A methodological approach for handling challenging conversations, emphasising connection, observation, asking, sharing consequences, and taking forward actions.


Navigating Language

Guides on how to avoid judgmental language, techniques for disagreeing without confrontations and encourages a collaborative approach in communication.


Dealing with Negative Feedback – CEDAR

Provides a framework for handling negative feedback and anger constructively.


World of Possibles

Teaches how to respond to refusals and how to navigate conversations towards possibilities and solutions.


Agree and Build

Further elaborates on building upon others’ ideas, even in disagreement, to foster collaborative communication.


Avoiding Disclaimers

Discusses the impact of disclaimers in communication and how to communicate more assertively.


Dealing with Interruptions

Offers strategies for handling interruptions in conversations effectively.


Challenging Questions

Focuses on how to ask and respond to challenging questions in a way that maintains dialogue and understanding.


Make it Real

Applies the learned concepts to real-life scenarios, emphasising practical application.

The ‘4 Communication Pillars’

Whether you’re seeking to elevate your career, enhance your personal relationships, or simply become a more effective communicator, the “4 Communication Pillars” provides a comprehensive and accessible path to achieving your goals. Unlock your potential and redefine the way you connect with the world.

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With the ‘4 Communication Pillars’ course you will:

 

  • Enhance your internal communication and how you are perceived
  • Learn how to craft impactful and authentic presentations
  • Gain techniques for building rapport and deep connections with other
  • Master the art of navigating difficult communication scenarios effectively  

The ‘4 Communication Pillars’ is a comprehensive course designed to enhance key aspects of personal and professional communication. Choose to focus on one, two, three, or all four pillars, each targeting a specific area for communication enhancement.

Begin with a minimum of five sessions per pillar, or expand your learning with 10 sessions for two pillars, or 15 sessions for three, allowing you to customise your journey to mastering communication according to your individual needs.

Pillar 1: Confident Mindset & Executive Presence

This pillar focusses on how individuals present themselves to other and they communicate effectively with themselves.

Pillar 1 focuses on developing Executive Presence and a Confident Mindset. This foundational course is designed to enhance individuals’ ability to project confidence and credibility, both in personal and professional settings. It offers tools and strategies to improve self-perception and the ability to effectively communicate with others. The course is ideal for professionals looking to elevate their executive presence, enhance their leadership qualities, and build a powerful, confident mindset.

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Pillar 2: Authentic Presentations

This pillar focusses on mastering the art of authentic presentations, emphasising the importance of genuine and impactful delivery.

Pillar 2 is designed to empower individuals with advanced presentation skills. This course covers a range of techniques and strategies to enhance engagement, eye contact, and vocal expression. Key topics include effective delivery methods, such as the ‘Delivery with Spoons’ technique, the art of using gestures, and creating a compelling ‘Mealplan’ for presentations which includes objectives, values, and spice to make every talk memorable. The course also addresses how to confidently handle off-the-cuff speaking, respond to difficult questions, and employ speedy nerve-busting tools like backing singers, mastering the first moment, and maintaining the right posture. Additionally, it provides top tips for delivering presentations virtually and culminates in creating a personal Presentation Charter to guide one’s unique presentation style.

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Pillar 3: Genuine Connections

This pillar focuses on building genuine connections with others. It emphasises the ability to build rapport, trust, and understanding through deep listening and strategic questioning.

Pillar 3 is dedicated to mastering the art of building deep, meaningful relationships. This pillar emphasises the importance of rapport-building, empathetic listening, and strategic questioning to foster trust and understanding. Key components include exploring values to better understand others, using the ‘Connection Space’ tool to adjust your energy to match that of others, and employing active and three-level listening to enhance receptivity and deepen connections. Additionally, the course introduces the ‘Treasure Hunting’ toolbox, a set of tools designed to uncover the unique value and ‘personal magic’ of individuals you interact with. This pillar is ideal for anyone looking to improve their interpersonal skills and establish genuine connections in both personal and professional settings.

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OUR ‘4 PILLARS’ PACKAGES

ESSENTIAL – 5 SESSIONS

Perfect for grounding yourself in the fundamental concepts and strategies of effective communication through one of the available ‘pillars’.

 

  • 5 x 1 hour sessions
  • A bespoke course tailored around your goals and needs
  • A manual for your chosen Communication Pillar
  • Final report & continued learning plan

SENIOR COACH – £1,050

PRINCIPAL COACH – £1,440

HEAD COACH – £1,755

(inc. VAT)

CLASSIC – 10 SESSIONS

Ideal for those seeking to thoroughly enhance their skills across one or two ‘pillars’, building confidence and mastery in communication.

 

  • 10 x 1 hour sessions
  • A bespoke course tailored around your goals and needs
  • A manual for your chosen Communication Pillars
  • Final report & continued learning plan
  • Option to pay in 2 instalments

SENIOR COACH – £1,980

PRINCIPAL COACH – £2,760

HEAD COACH – £3,315

(inc. VAT)

DELUXE – 15 SESSIONS

Designed for individuals committed to achieving the highest level of proficiency and nuanced understanding of each aspect of up to three ‘pillars’.

 

  • 15 x 1 hour sessions
  • A bespoke course tailored around your goals and needs
  • A manual for your chosen Communication Pillars
  • Final report & continued learning plan
  • Option to pay in 3 instalments

SENIOR COACH – £2,790

PRINCIPAL COACH – £3,960

HEAD COACH – £4,680

(inc. VAT)

Book Your Course Today

To book your ‘4 Communication Pillars’ course with us, simply select one of our packages below. Use the code ‘4PillarEarly15’ for an Early Bird 15% discount when you book before December 31st. Once you have purchased your sessions, your Client Success Manager will reach out and schedule a call with you. On this call you will be able to discuss which Pillars, Tools and Coach are best suited to you in the next step of your communication journey.